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My mother is saying that my father treated her horribly
My father is saying that my mother treated her horribly
What do I do?
I keep getting pulled into this bullshit that they say about each other
I can't take it anymore.
I can't.
Probably the simplest way to not get involved is to just let them both know that you love them both very much, but when they talk badly about the other one, it really makes you feel uncomfortable and that you would greatly appreciate it if they just didn't talk about each other to you. Parents do fight sometimes but that doesn't mean you as the child should be the referee. Just talk to them both in a very nice way and let them know that you're feeling pulled into their fight and since you aren't taking sides, you would rather just be left out of it. Depending on their situation, you could also ask about family therapy so the therapist could let them know that what they are doing is making you uncomfortable and they shouldn't put you in the middle of their fighting. Call or text us anytime and best wishes.
I have parents like this, and trust me I understand how hard it is, and I really would love to help you. Just don’t take a side, don’t get involved, and tell them they can’t keep having you solve all of their problems, and that they need to work it out, I did this and my household went 3 months without fighting, I believe in you, and I hope everything gets better 🤍
That sounds really tough and confusing! It’s hard when your parents are fighting and saying mean things about each other. You shouldn’t have to be in the middle of it, and it’s okay to feel upset about it.
Maybe you could try talking to one of them and let them know how you feel. You could say something like, “I love both of you, and it makes me really sad when you argue. Can we talk about something else?”
If it gets too much, it might help to talk to another trusted adult, like a teacher or a family member, who can help you figure things out. Remember, it’s not your fault and you deserve to feel happy and safe! Hang in there! 💖
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