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I have been having conflicts with my parents for almost a year now. We have completely different mindsets and opinions on things. On top of that, I had issues in school, especially with the pressure from my parents to study. My mom constantly compares me to this one cousin who is just a year older than me. If I refused to do something I had to hear about it all day long "in the future u will have to do this so how r u going to do it". On the other hand, when I clean the whole house to surprise my mom, she just ignores my efforts and is like "so?, u r a girl and this is also ur house, u arent doing me any favor". Just because I text boys it doesn't mean I have a boyfriend, I told them that so many times. They think that I do wrong stuff on my phone and took away my phone from me. I was thinking of getting a part-time job but I'm not allowed to work since I'm on a TD visa which means I'm dependent on my dad. My parents also think that my friends r a bad influence on me just because they support me and understand my point of view. There was even this one point where I tried to commit suicide, my parents found out got me therapy. Today they make it sound like it was my fault. When I feel depressed and cry in my dark room I have no support system. I'm the one who supports myself. My parents took away my phone so I cant even turn to my friends for help. Even now I'm writing this post from my school Chromebook. Dance is my passion, but my parents say stuff about it like its bad or its only used for vulgar stuff. At this point I want to get a part-time job, save some money, and just move out and be independent. We r having arguments everyday, sometimes big sometimes small. I don't think I can keep up with it anymore. I'm literally dreading summer break, I cant wait for it to end. I had the worst birthday this year which was a few days ago. My mom made a whole lot of efforts but my dad was acting like he was forced into this or just wanted to do his own thing rather than celebrating my birthday. I have little sister who hits me, if I yell at her my parents yell at me and be like "she is just a kid" or "u know she had problems in her brain". My sister is autistic, and I get it but it doesn't mean that we won't stop her from doing whats wrong. I wish my high school had dorms or something which I could apply for because I would much rather stay in the high school and focus on my goals rather than stay home and deal with my parents constantly yelling at me, and telling me what to wear and what not to wear. I have had enough at this point. Please help.
Sorry you had such a hard time and are feeling so overwhelmed. It’s brave that you got therapy after feeling suicidal and it’s okay to not be okay all the time, but just know that there is support if you ever feel lonely again. If you ever want to talk 2NDFLOOR is here 24/7 at 888-222-2228. You can also call 988 if you need help right away. It does sound like there is a lot on your plate and the family is dynamics are complex, it sounds like therapy is a good thing for you. Maybe you can have a family session if you felt it would help?! You mentioned dancing is a passion and it is a great tool so keep using it for stress. I hope this helped and you want to talk reach out anytime.
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