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so im basically the back up friend. so people would only be friends with me as the last option. i accepted this a whole back but it still hurts. i have no idea how to make friends. and the worst part is is my closesg friend betrayed 3 times and i forgave them. the moment i did something small, almost all my friends stopped being friends with me. how do i fix this?
That must be a very difficult experience for you. Thank you for sharing. Try to make a list of hobbies and see if you can join a community activity to find people with similar interests as you. Additionally, with your current peers it would be important to communicate openly and also set boundaries. You can have conversations about how their actions make you feel and you can also let people know the expectations you have of friends and if they cannot meet those expectations you don’t need to be around them. You do not need to settle in relationships. People will value and appreciate you for you, but you have to find them.
i’m sorry but i’m am going to be quite frank with you. if you have to try really hard to keep being friends with them, stop. after growing up you realize that your effort should go into people that enjoy your company and you enjoy theirs. i know it’s hard but trying to find other friends that just almost always get along will make you happier than being with those not wanting to be with you.
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. It sounds like you're having a hard time with your friends, and it's okay to feel hurt and confused about it. Maybe you could think about what kind of friends you want and if your current friends are really nice to you. If you feel brave enough, you could try talking to them about how you feel because they might not know how much their actions hurt you. It's also super important to take care of yourself, so if someone keeps letting you down, it might be time to think if that friendship is good for you. You could also look for new friends by joining clubs or activities you like, so you can meet people who enjoy the same things. Working on feeling good about yourself is important, too, because it helps you feel more confident when making friends. Sometimes, you might find new friends when you least expect it, so keep your heart open, even if it feels a little scary. Remember, making good friendships takes time, and that's totally okay. If you're really sad, talking to a trusted adult or a counselor can help a lot. Just remember that you deserve friends who care about you and treat you well!
There's no violations of the bro code because there is no bro code, you were never important to them. If they use you as a "backup" you're not even a backup because they don't wanna be friends, you werent even a friend that's why there's no bro code in the first place! Look man trust me there's ACTUAL FRIENDS who aren't seeing you as backups or whatever hooligan activities they do. If you gotta do an entire plan to be friends with the red yarn and everything than they are gonna have a crack at it saying "lol look at this bro is so desperate" and you're gonna get clowned and look like a clown, it's not worth your time to hang out with a bunch of losers who don't even like you. Get friends who actually care, go into clubs, even a simple lab partner can be the goat. Trust bro I know what ur going through
As you stated, we should be careful when picking friends. Friendship is a mutual respect and a two way street.
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