FAMILY
Really not liking my father.
I’m a 19 year old female w/ BPD, living in a condo with my father and our dog. Parents got divorced less than a year ago, and they also split up me and my twin brother. (Mom got brother, dad got me). I’m pretty sure my mother orchestrated that ordeal and the only reason I live with my dad is because she literally told me I wouldn’t get a bedroom if I lived with her. So now it’s just me and my dad…we’re both extremely anti social. His career requires minimal communication and I don’t leave home most days, so we’re often the only people we talk to all day. And we drive each other crazy. The part that bothers me most is the parent-child dynamic. No matter what argument we have, he will always be right and I will always be wrong because he’s my dad. (But the man is out of his mind 9 times out of 10…) I feel completely powerless and trapped. I don’t have anywhere else to live and I’m cut off from my entire family (thanks ma❤), so the only person I have is my dad. In online school right now, so hoping I can get my degree ASAP, land a career, start a life of my own, and leave EVERYONE and EVERYTHING in the past. I just dread the fact that that’s years away. Any support/suggestions are appreciated. Thank you everyone!
Super Moderator • 5 months ago
Glad you reached out. Sorry to hear this. It sounds like you’ve really been through a lot over the past few years with the divorce and separation from family. Have you talked to anyone professionally about this? It seems like it could help to talk to a therapist or counselor to sort through all of these heavy experiences. The good thing is you are in college and you just have to push through to get your degree and start a career in which you will be able to save money to move out. If that’s your goal you must stick to it to achieve it. It’s not impossible!! It may not feel like it but there is always a light at the end but only you can make that happen. Also, your relationship with dad or mom can improve or change in the future you never know. Practice some coping techniques as well, they will help too. Please text or call us at the 2NDFLOOR Youth Helpline to chat more about this. We are here 24/7 at 888-222-2228 (tel:888-222-2228).
3 months, 1 week ago
Make every day set a schedule that includes taking a walk, maybe walk the dog, maybe there is a library or somewhere you could go read, just do things for yourself to break up the feeling of being home all day. Good luck!