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I feel as though my friend and I have been growing apart. Let’s talk.
OK, to start off, we’re both in HS. I’m a very involved student who enjoys going to school and talking to people. To describe my friend; he’s the exact opposite. He hates our school and the teachers there (a concept I cannot grasp for the life of me). One day, he stopped showing up to school. His attendance has always been pretty fickle, but it was much more consistent in the recent months. Then, he stopped “going” to our school: he takes his classes online now. I rarely ever see him and I feel hurt. He didn’t even tell me that he was going TO leave school! I’m trying to reach out, but he always makes illegitimate excuses. Plus, it doesn’t help that my mom is vehement about me just giving up on him. The thing is, is that I can’t! To be honest, I don’t even really enjoy being in his company as of late, and I feel dejected from his actions. It feels bad, but I keep trying to help. I’m aware that he does have some mental issues like OCD and anxiety, and I’m worried that his behaviors are CLEAR indicators of depression. I just don’t want anything bad to him. Any advice, everyone? Thank you and goodbye.
It's completely normal to feel hurt and rejected when a friend starts to distance themselves from you. When faced with this situation, it's important to recognize your emotions, respect their choice, and concentrate on your own path ahead. Try to accept the situation without internalizing it, especially since you mentioned that he may be dealing with mental health challenges. Consider connecting with other supportive friends and make self-care a priority. Allow him some space, and when the time feels right, you might want to have a conversation to gain insight into his viewpoint, but always remember to put your well-being first.
It sounds like you’re in a really difficult situation, and it’s understandable to feel hurt and confused about the changes in your friendship. It’s commendable that you care about your friend and want to support him, especially given his mental health struggles. Here are some thoughts and suggestions that might help:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel hurt and dejected about the changes in your friendship. Recognizing your feelings is an important step in processing them.
2. Reach Out with Care: Since you’re concerned about your friend, consider reaching out in a way that shows your support without putting pressure on him. A simple message expressing that you’re thinking of him and are there if he wants to talk can be a good start.
3. Encourage Professional Help: If you feel comfortable, you might gently suggest that he talk to a counselor or therapist. Given his mental health challenges, professional support could be really beneficial for him.
4. Set Boundaries for Yourself: While it’s great to want to help your friend, it’s also important to take care of your own well-being. If the friendship is causing you stress or disappointment, it’s okay to take a step back and prioritize yourself.
5. Focus on Quality Time: If you do get a chance to connect, try to focus on activities that you both enjoy. This can help create a more positive atmosphere and may encourage him to open up.
6. Talk to Someone You Trust: Sharing your feelings with someone else, like a family member or another friend, can help you process what you’re going through. They might offer valuable insights or support.
7. Be Patient: Friendships can go through ups and downs, and sometimes people need space. It’s important to be patient and give your friend time, even if it feels frustrating.
Ultimately, you can’t control how your friend responds, but you can control your actions and how you take care of yourself. It’s clear that you care deeply about him, and that’s a wonderful quality to have. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your own mental health and seek balance in your friendships.
It sounds like a tough spot to be in. Keep reaching out, even if he makes excuses. Let him know you care and miss him. If he seems down, maybe suggest talking to a professional. Just remember to take care of yourself too!
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