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Me and my girlfriend have been together for a few months and everything has seemed to be going well but I just have a few concerns about our relationship.
A lot of the time I feel like I’m a distraction or unimportant and I limit her from enjoying her time at college because of my severe anxiety everytime she goes out. I also feel as if my anxiety is making her upset and she might lose feelings or get annoyed if I keep worrying about her. Am I the problem in our relationship?
Hi thanks for reaching out to 2ndfloor. What are the concerns for the relationship? How do you think your anxiety is impacting her, has she voiced how it’s been impacting her? It sounds like
you two need to have an open conversation about your concerns and relationship expectations. If you’ve been diagnosed with anxiety - or even if not but feel that you’re really struggling- we suggest reaching out to a mental health professional to enter counseling. Feel free to call or text 888 222 2228 if you’d like to discuss this or any other topic.
I don’t think your the promblem what but I also think you should have a sit down with your girlfriend and talk about your anxiety and maybe seek help for your anxiety
Talk to your girlfriend about your feelings. Let her know that you care about her and that you sometimes feel anxious when she’s out. Make sure to express yourself without blaming her or making her feel guilty.
“Hey, I just wanted to share that sometimes I feel a bit anxious when you go out with your friends. It’s not about trusting you; I guess I just worry about missing you.”
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