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All my life I've been a good listener, I've helped people when they needed comfort, I've been there for them to hug or talk to, I used to be so good at comforting and now I'm not. I've lost that part of me, my mental health is spiraling, everything around me is going wrong, I'm surrounded by crying everyday and just sadness filling the air. My parents are getting a divorce, finally after years, but everyday it's either my mom is venting to me, or my dad is crying and I just cant comfort them anymore, I think I'm tired. I've been helping others for the longest of time while I've had to hide whatever I was dealing with, having to not talk to others cus I knew they were going through things, and if I did talk to someone and trust them they'd later be horrible people and I'd feel even worse about myself. I have two friends, one of them is also going through things, I try to be there for her but today, this time, I just couldn't. I'm finally trying to put myself first, I've stopped listened to my mom when she vents to be about my dad, I try not to surround myself with my dad when he's sad, and it makes me feel guilty honestly, I feel like a piece of crap but I just cant I can't do it anymore I've been doing it my whole life I can't take this anymore. My friend wasn't feeling ok, and I was on call with my other friend, she said we should probably go to her so she doesn't do anything stupid, my friends know I'm going through things, they know I relapsed and that I'm trying hard to be happy, and I really can't comfort people and try to convince them to live when I barely can convince myself and I'm fighting every day, my friend was talking and I didn't answer her and she said something about me being kinda weird for not going with her to comfort our other friend, she then said "yes no maybe so?, that's kinda crazy" because I couldn't go, they don't understand no matter how many times I try to speak, I don't think they fully listen, I'm trying hard I'm trying so hard.
I'm so glad you're reaching out here to get your own support - you deserve it! It makes total sense that you're feeling burnt out and emotionally exhausted. There's a saying that goes "you can't pour from an empty cup" and it sounds like that's where you're at right now. It is totally appropriate to set boundaries in terms of when and how you're extending your energy. To use another analogy, it's time to put the oxygen mask on yourself. You mentioned that you relapsed so it's understandable if you're feeling extra vulnerable and need space from others' distress. It's absolutely okay to take that and it's not selfish - it's self preservation. Could it be possible to ask your parents for some professional support during this time? Counseling can offer the opportunity to fully express yourself without having to meet anyone else's emotional needs. If you'd like to talk more about this you can reach out through our app or call/text us 24/7 at 888-222-2228. We'll always be here if you need :)
You are a kind person for always being there for people but it’s totally ok to take a pause from that and focus on yourself. You derseve all the best and to treat yourself the way you problems have selflessly done in the past
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