Sometimes I'm not sure where I stand on some friendships. For context I'm 22. Or even connections that can potentially become friendships. I know we're adults and we are busy. I understand some people work, and have bills to pay. But I also care about the outcome and whether or not I am reaping the benefits of a friendship aka spending time together, making memories, going out etc. I feel like it's equivalent to being married without intimacy or romantic outings. Like there's no benefits to it. I want friends who are proactive. But I'm having trouble letting go trying with some people with the thought of "did I give them enough chance?" But I'm always the first to initiate contact, and when I do, they are pretty responsive but I don't know anymore.
Super Moderator • 3 weeks, 5 days ago
It's essential to have people in our lives with whom we genuinely connect, but finding the right individuals, forming those meaningful bonds, and keeping friendships alive can be quite challenging. This is especially true for adults these days, with how much our social lives have changed! I get the feeling that you often find yourself being the one to reach out first. Making new friends can be a bit scary, but someone has to take that leap, or it might never happen. Just like asking someone out, inviting a new friend to hang out can feel like a big deal, but if you don’t go for it, you could miss out on something great! To really nurture a solid friendship, you need to put in both emotional effort and time. If they’re not making an effort to hang out, it could mean they’re not all in on the friendship. It might be a good idea to have a straightforward chat with them about what you both want from the relationship.