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4 months ago, my friend dissapeared, we talked online almost everyday (we knew each other irl, but bc they switched to online school we didn't see each other often) but one day they just started talking less and eventually i saw that their discord (the only app we used to message) account was deleted..☹️ i was blocked and unfriended on everything too. this really hurt for a while..now since I started high school I have new friends and I feel a lot better than I did in middle school but still something feels off everyday☹️I miss them a lot vro☹️ they would take breaks every often to mentally recharge n stuff, so once they stopped talking I just assumed they were on break..even wrote a whole thing of what I wanted to tell them when they got back.. one day, 4 months prior or so, i asked about how they were doing, and they opened up to me about some of their problems, how they felt bad for being my friend and some other stuff.. I still have questions and doubts from time to time but really I don't believe this was meant to be personal, but it's been 4 months since anything has happened and I feel like I have to do something. a month ago I sent them an email but there was no reply.. now ive gathered up the courage to send their sister a dm, i found her twitter handle in past messages. I cannot dm her directly without twitter blue, ive already @ed her two times in some posts to no response..so now ill lowkey spend 3 dollars ig😭😭 but i feel like enough time has passed that i just wanna find out how theyve been and if they're alr, and knowing that would mean sm to me. I really loved this friend and I wanna move on but it was just so sudden that I have to do something and I legit feel so guilty for waiting 3/4 months to actually do it😔 I don't know why I waited so long, ig I thought they would just come back at first, but now ill probably never talk to them again unless something changes. i have a message prewritten and everything, so I'll probably dm their sis tm when 4 day weekend starts, but im still nervous about doing my plan bc if there's no response like previously I don't know what ill do😭 but ill find a way ig, and I hope that they're ok and one day, we can maybe just talk to each other again🙏
It sounds like you are a good friend and you really care about your friend. That's wonderful. Since you don't know exactly what's going on, this could be a bit tricky. You can try reaching out again, going through their sister like you said, or if you are close to them, maybe go to their place and talk to them in person to see what's going on. Do you parents know them? Maybe they could reach out to your friend's parents just to make sure everything is ok with them. In any event, even if for some reason things don't work out, you should be proud of yourself for caring and being a good friend and hopefully you eventually will find someone that treats you the same way.
Hey! I totally get how you feel. Losing a friend, especially someone you used to talk to every day, is super tough. It sounds like you had a really close bond, and it's okay to miss them. It’s good that you’ve made new friends in high school, but it’s normal to still feel a little off sometimes when you think about your old friend.
It’s sweet that you wrote down what you wanted to tell them when they got back. It shows how much you care! Maybe one day you'll find out what happened and get some closure. For now, focus on your new friendships and remember that it's okay to have questions and feelings about the past. Just take it one day at a time, and know that it's okay to miss your friend. Hang in there! 💖
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