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I’m adopted and I am black my parents are white. I went to get my hair done and my mom was there and the person doing my hair was like she must get her hair from her dad. My mom just smiled and said yes. I’m so mad cause it was so weird and mad at mom for not saying anything and mad I didn’t says something llle yeah no I get it from your dad.
Hi. That is very frustrating. Did you talk to your mom about how that bothered you and what you may have felt more comfortable with her saying? It could help to hear your mom’s perspective too. It could also prevent that from happening again. I think it was probably best that you didn’t say anything because it’s more of a conversation to have with your mom rather than a comment to the hair person who was not being so smart with making an assumption in the first place. You can also talk to your mom about ways you can respond yourself that would be appropriate to others who can be ignorant. If you would like to talk about this further you can call us at our 2NDFLOOR Youth Helpline at 888-222-2228 or chat with us on our 2NDFLOOR app. Thanks for reaching out!
It sounds like you had a really upsetting experience, and it’s completely understandable to feel frustrated about it. Comments like that can be really awkward and hurtful, especially when they make assumptions about your identity and background. It’s important for your feelings to be validated.
Have you had a chance to talk to your mom about how that made you feel? Letting her know how you felt in that moment might help her understand your perspective better. It’s okay to express that you wish she had responded differently, and it could lead to a more supportive conversation between the two of you.
Remember, your feelings are valid, and it’s important to surround yourself with people who appreciate and respect your unique identity. If you ever need to talk about it or need support, don’t hesitate to reach out to friends or trusted individuals who understand your experiences. You deserve to feel heard and supported.
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