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I am 23, we have been together since high school, we were in long distance for the last 2 years for my study. she cheated on me 6 months ago with a random guy from tinder, I found out 3 months ago and broke up with her, I broke every contact with her. last month she tried to commit sui***e ended up in hospital. I agreed to reconcile for her sake, I still love her but I cant take her back, last 3 months have been hell for me. I just feel like I am stuck her for life, I dont have any other options, I have thought about doing it multiple times and I feel I might do it if this contine like this.
I am sorry you are going through this, It is unfortunate about your ex-girlfriend but it is not your fault that she tried to commit suicide. If you cannot be with her because she cheated, you need to let her know and get out of the relationship. Maybe speak to her parents about it to make sure she has therapeutic support so she gets the help she needs. It sounds like she has a lot of things she needs to work though. Also, it might help you to get some counseling support too. You have been through a lot and it would be helpful to have some ongoing help. If you would like to talk about this further, plese feel free to reply to this message board, text or give us a call. Our number is 888-222-2228.
same here. As backstory, she's 21 and I'm 20. We're both in college still, so for 4 months out of the year, I'm forced to return home in order to not pay for the expensive summer housing options supplied by my school. My girlfriend has always stayed in the city we attend school in to work at a job that doesn't pay much. At this job, her and her male coworker began talking with each other and becoming friendly. Another one of her coworkers was much older (around 40) and started to make subtle, gross remarks to my girlfriend. In order to avoid him, she took refuge in the friendly coworker's room. Naturally, she admired him for being a place of comfort, while her boyfriend (myself) wasn't able to provide the support she needed. I tried to call her constantly, because she's always been a neurodivergent person that can get hurt easily, and the last thing I want is for her to get hurt. My girlfriend and I signed a lease recently that would tie us in the same apartment for the next year, but upon the first day of my arrival, I had found out that she had been cheating on me for a few weeks. I loved her so much and I could never imagine inflicting this kind of pain on anyone, so its difficult for me to understand why she could do something like this. Our relationship has been one with a lot of ups and downs, but for the past few months, our relationship was on excellent terms. I thought both of us were excited to move in and ready to finally see each other for a whole year. This whole cheating situation has totally blind sided me and I want to be able to hate her because she did something so disgusting and despicable that I want to make it easier on myself to leave her.
I have since moved into a new place, but I cannot get over her. I should be able to bring myself to hate someone that could hurt me as much as this has, but how could I ever hate someone that I still care for and love so much. I'm someone that falls in love and ends up loving the other person so intensely that the other person's interests are all I care about. It's not in my nature. All I've ever wanted was to go to college and find an upstanding woman that loved me as much as I love her and starting a family. It just hurts so much because I thought that person was her.
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