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They're an online friend and they live in California so there's really nothing I can do irl, wanted to say that before I got into it. I've tried everything possible, but they're refusing to talk to me or open up and just keep saying it's fine. I'm aware I can't help anyone if they don't want the help, so I've sorta accepted that I can't do anything and I might have to just live with the guilt. I want to do more so bad, but I'm not in a space to help anymore than I've already tried. I suppose I'm just really frustrated because my emotions feel as though it's my fault even though I know logically I can't do anything. And I really am just upset because I don't want to lose them in general. I care about them a lot, and my best friend is also really close to them, so I'm afraid if they do it, then my bsf will go into a spiral. I'm just not sure I can handle all of this and I don't have a single person in my life to talk to, or a single other friend. I'm scared. I feel sick to my stomach yet resigned at the same time. I think I really just needed to get this out, there's not really advice I'm expecting that can help because I've done everything I can already, it's just, how life works. Whenever my life starts getting good, things like this happen and I have to start all over. I just got all of my grades up to A's and don't have a single missing assignment. I haven't relapsed or had a single dangering thought in months. My ex finally left me alone. I'm tired of this cycle that I have no control over. Just wish life wasn't this difficult I guess. Thanks for just listening I suppose if you read this. Still hoping someone finds a way through to them. I don't want to lose anyone else.
I'm sorry to hear that your friend is struggling and that it's also impacting you. I know you said no advice, but I will still throw some ideas your way to see if you can do something after all. If you've tried them already, continue to try to get him to open up and get him help. First, if you and your friend know him well, find out where he goes to school and call the school and report that he has been threatening suicide and show them whatever proof you have such as screen shots of his messages or however you communicate. Same thing can work with his family. If you know his parents or whomever he lives with let them know what they've been saying so they can arrange for help for him. If you have his address you could also contact his local police (google the name of his town + state + police non-emergency number) and provide them with his information so they can perform a safety check on him. You can also refer him to 988 if he doesn't already know about that. Make sure you are making your own mental health a priority in your life. Not everyone is going to be a healthy person to be involved in a friendship with and your happiness and mental sanity is important. If you wish to talk more about this, call or chat anytime.
Hey, I just wanted to reach out because I can sense that you’re feeling really overwhelmed with everything going on, especially with your friend. It’s completely understandable to feel frustrated and scared in this situation. Here are a few thoughts that might help:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel the way you do. Your emotions are valid, so don’t be too hard on yourself for feeling frustrated or scared. It’s a tough situation, and it’s natural to have those feelings.
2. Set Boundaries: While it’s great that you want to help your friend, remember that you can only do so much. It’s important to take care of yourself too. You’ve already done what you can, and it’s not your fault if they aren’t ready to open up.
3. Focus on What You Can Control: Celebrate the progress you’ve made in your life, like improving your grades and maintaining your well-being. Those are huge achievements, and you deserve to acknowledge them!
4. Reach Out for Support: Even if you feel alone right now, consider talking to a counselor or joining an online support group. Sometimes, just sharing your feelings with someone who understands can make a big difference.
5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself during this time. You’re doing your best in a tough situation, and it’s okay to prioritize your mental health.
6. Look for Small Joys: Try to find little moments of joy or activities that bring you peace, whether it’s a hobby, a walk, or some quiet time for yourself. Those moments can really help lift your spirits.
7. Stay Connected: If you have other friends or acquaintances, even if they’re not as close, reach out to them. You don’t have to go through this alone, and maintaining connections can provide some comfort.
I know you’re feeling tired of the cycles life throws at you, but remember that it’s okay to lean on others for support. You’re not alone in this, and it’s perfectly fine to express what you’re going through
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