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So my mom basically isn’t a bad mom. She can just be really stubborn. I don’t get why I’m not allowed to be like other kids. She doesn’t let me wear like sports bras at dance or bikinis or crop tops and I’m gonna be 14 soon. She also doesn’t let me get acrylic nails. I break down a lot but I just can’t tell her. She gets so judgy. Ever since my Mommom died she has been extra like extra close with my uncle/her brother. She’s always on the phone with him more than with my dad. She’s either caring or talking about herself, my younger sister or my uncle. She always says I’m being mean or giving attitude but rlly I’m just trying to ask for help without saying that. Idk what to do anymore.
Hi there I am glad you reached out ! I can see how this can be frustrating, especially since other kids are allowed to do these things. That must be hard. Why do you think she has a hard time with these choices? What worries her about them? It sounds like she may be in a tough place right now and communication may be lacking on both ends. Is it possible for you to be transparent with your mom and say that you need help instead of giving her the attitude? Perhaps a conversation might help the both of you open up. To start this conversation you can try using “I” statements. Such as “I feel unheard when my choices aren’t considered” versus “you never listen to me”. Also remembering to go for compromises over ultimatums. If you would like to talk about this or anything else further please reach out to one of our live counselors though the chat box on the app/webpage or by texting or calling 1(888)222-2228 any time 24/7. Remember, it only takes a SECOND to reach out !
Hey,
Thank you for sharing how you feel. It sounds like you’re going through a really challenging time, and it’s completely normal to feel frustrated about the way things are with your mom. It can be tough when you feel like your needs aren’t being heard, especially when you’re trying to express yourself.
It’s understandable to want to dress the way your friends do, and it’s hard when you feel like you’re being held back. Have you considered having a calm conversation with your mom about how you feel? It might help to pick a moment when she’s not busy or stressed and share your feelings honestly. Let her know you’re not trying to be mean; you just want to express who you are.
Also, it’s completely okay to seek support elsewhere, whether that’s friends, family, or a trusted adult. You don’t have to go through this alone. Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be heard.
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