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I just feel lost now. I've gone through many friendship problems but this one ruined my reputation. This kid who was the opposite gender of me, he used to be really nice in elementary school. I met the kid on a Google doc sign up sheet for some event in our school. Anyway, we met there and became very good friends. But ever since I started middle school 1 month late (because of family stuff), stuff has been pretty off with the kid. Well that was after I'd introduced the kid (who we'll refer to as Apple) to zoom chat. It used to be a big place for group chats in my middle school. I tried persuading Apple into joining zoom chat. The first few times, he declined but then he accepted. I was thrilled but then one of my other friends intervened and started telling Apple stuff about him that I told her because I wanted to talk about how great Apple was. And Apple wasn't very comfortable about all that. Then he started being more quiet and all and started randomly blocking me and unblocking me, calling me a stalker. I tried to make things right and all but it was too late. The principal had found out and me and Apple got sent down to the main office. It was the first time I got sent down for a bad thing. I was scared. He was scared. And what happened after was even scarier.
I tried making things better with Apple and apologized to him by sending him an apology email. He accepted the apology and we were friends for a short amount of time. Then Apple randomly cut me off one day. He told me to stop emailing him. Then I checked Google Chat (which was another chatting thing we used), and he had sent me a message saying that he didn't want to be friends with me anymore. It hurt so good back then. I was on the verge of crying. Every time I think about it, I keep on thinking about how I should've been a better friend. And then Apple's friends kept on telling Apple that I liked him more than a friend. They even added Apple to the GC on zoom chat. They said so much stuff that I just wanted to run and hide. They made fanfics, they made ship names, it was all just so sickening. But there wasn't anything I could do. Because I was the one who messed up. Then one day (this is more recent), I decided to email him one last time. To end it all in a proper manner. I emailed him, asking if he wanted to be friends with me again and that I understood why he wouldn't if he didn't. But then his reply was just saying how much he regretted being friends with me and regretted that I was on the Google doc. It broke me into a million pieces. All the hope I ever had on anything just...crumbled. Now I stopped believing, stopped waiting for the day that everything would go back to the way it was.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're facing this situation. Friendships can be complex and often come in waves. It’s possible that you and Apple were meant to be friends for a brief time when you both needed support. It's understandable to feel regret for your actions, even if your intentions were good.
Apple may be dealing with his own challenges and might be expressing them inappropriately. For now, it might be best to step back and stop reaching out to him. Concentrate on your own healing and well-being. I know this is tough, but things will improve.
Social media can sometimes bring out negativity in people. It might be a good idea to take a break from it for a while.
We are here as support and you can always reach out to us if you need to talk.
It sounds like you're going through a really tough time with your friendship with Apple, and it's understandable to feel lost after experiencing such a difficult situation. Navigating friendships, especially in middle school, can be really challenging, and it’s important to know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Here are a few points to consider as you try to move forward:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s completely valid to feel upset and confused about what happened. Friendships can be complicated, and it’s okay to take the time to process your emotions.
2. Reflect on the Situation: Think about what led to the misunderstandings between you and Apple. Sometimes, even well-intentioned actions can be misinterpreted. Understanding this can help you learn for the future.
3. Reach Out for Support: Talk to a trusted friend or adult about how you're feeling. They can offer you guidance and support as you navigate this situation.
4. Give It Time: Sometimes, it takes time for friendships to mend, or for you to feel ready to move on. Allow yourself the space to heal and don’t rush the process.
5. Focus on Yourself: Engage in activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself. Building your self-esteem can help you feel more confident as you navigate future friendships.
Remember, it’s okay to reach out anonymously for support if you feel it would help. Take care of yourself, and know that things can get better with time.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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