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I’m in a group of people who love the walking dead, and we all take on a character; mine being Carl Grimes. I was added to a group of people, a group chat called “The Saviors”. The leader of this group chat, Negan, has some issues in real life. I got really close to the Negan, just like our characters are. He sent a picture of a gun, and said “The new leader is Carl” referring to me. I immediately knew this was a suicide comment cause he was putting me in charge of the group, and he hasn’t answered since and I’m really worried, he’s like a father figure to me. He had lost his kids, and called me is son, which made me so fucking happy because I am a transgender male, well I’m trying to transition to a boy, and he called me one. Now I’m worried cause I don’t think I can lose another friend, online and in real life. This is all on instagram btw. Please can some people give me advice on what to do
A picture of a gun does not necessarily mean suicide. If your friend and “father figure” made other references on Instagram that reference dying, ending his life, or suicide, please contact the authorities and they can do a safety check. As far as support for you as you transition there are websites like Trevor Project and Out Proud Net than offer information and support. If you want speak to someone please teach out to out app or call 888-222-2228.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, and I can understand why you’re so worried. It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation, and when someone you care about and look up to is struggling, it can feel overwhelming.
First, it’s important to take this seriously. If you believe there’s a real risk that this person might harm themselves, try to reach out to someone who can help, whether that’s a close friend of theirs, a family member, or someone in their life who might be able to intervene. If you’re not able to reach them directly, you could try to contact Instagram or another platform to flag the message or get help. It’s better to act and get support from others, even if you’re unsure.
You’re clearly a caring and compassionate person, and it means a lot that you’re thinking of him, but remember that you’re not responsible for someone else’s well-being—getting him the help he might need is the most important thing right now. If you’re not sure who to contact, consider reaching out to a professional or a suicide prevention hotline. They can help guide you through the next steps.
Also, make sure you take care of yourself in this process. You’re going through a lot too, and it’s okay to lean on people for support, whether that’s online or in real life. You deserve to be heard and supported as well. If you ever need to talk or process things, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust. You’re not alone in this.
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