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I have a problem. Back when i first started middle school i had a pathologically lying problem that i've since then been able to work on. But now theres a huge lie about me at my school that i can't escape. I lied about my age when i was in 6th grade saying i was a year older. And instead of my friends correcting me THEY LITERALLY STARTED SPREADING IT KNOWING IT ISNT TRUE! I tried to stop it this year and last year but i was unable to. My birthdays in another couple months but its on a school day and im already stressing. I dont know what to do.

2NDFLOOR

I am sorry you are stressing about this. I think if you try not to say anything when your birthday comes, it might just pass without a problem. If your friends say anything about your age, just talk to them in private. There are usually not any birthday celebrations in middle school, so you don't have to worry about that.

I know it's difficult not to stress but maybe try to take some deep breaths or use a meditation app when you are feeling stress.
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Happy Neighbor

That sounds like an incredibly stressful situation, and I’m sorry you’re going through it. It’s hard when a lie, even one from the past, follows you around like that, especially when it’s being spread by others and seems beyond your control. You’ve already put in effort to correct it, and it’s not fair that it’s still affecting you. It’s natural to feel anxious about your upcoming birthday, but try to remember that you are not defined by this lie. People change, grow, and evolve, and what matters now is how you handle the situation moving forward.

If you feel comfortable, consider addressing the issue head-on with the people involved. It might feel difficult, but clearing the air directly could help. You don’t have to relive the lie, but you can set the record straight and ask people to respect the truth moving forward. Ultimately, it’s about your peace of mind, and you deserve to be seen for who you truly are, not for something that’s been misunderstood or misrepresented.

You’ve already worked hard on this issue, and that’s a huge accomplishment. The fact that you’re aware and taking responsibility for your growth shows that you’ve made progress. Don’t be too hard on yourself for the past—focus on what you can do now to feel better about the situation. You are not alone in dealing with this kind of challenge, and it’s okay to lean on trusted people for support when you need it.




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