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so basically when I got back from a residential care center I thought I'd be able to have my life back because I learned how to handle my problems. but no my parents instantly take everything away from me including privacy and they wont let me talk to anyone without privacy, due to that they wont let me talk about their toxic, favoritive nature towards me. I have autism and am unable to understand what they try to explain to me sometimes but despite my clinical diagnosis, they have expectations for me that I am simply, unable to reach. so they decide to blame me for my bothers shtty behavior, my bother acts like andrew tate and donald trump in one person, he blames me for his problems, he thinks he's the boss and owns me, and he thinks he's better than everyone, he even has a problem with bullying kids at his school because they're "stupid" he also never stops talking and despite me constantly telling him that it stresses me out all he does is yell at me for it. he calls me immature on a daily basis, and he never listens to my words (note that he might be autistic too so I'm trying to give him a little bit of empathy but I'm really struggling with it.) yeah so basically he tells my parents that I'm a liar, a sneak, and a manipulator even though I hold no bad intentions or desire to harm anyone. but he is the only one doing so (maybe he isn't but idk) he also used to be incredibly bigoted to me when I first came out as trans, as he'd say things like, "you'll always be a girl" or "you're stuck like this until you die" and he hasn't apologized for anything like that since, from my memory. but back to my parents, they always blame me and pick favorites for me and him. as if I'm not their son but some servant, as they also expect me to do his chores and clean up after him despite me giving them obvious reasons that its unfair. my mom also has a horrible attitude towards me and she never softens up, as sh never focuses on the things I've accomplished, but only on the things that I suck at, which is incredibly deprecating towards me. as if once again, I'm a servant, not a son, also I've been traumatized by my dad "accidentally" hitting me when we fight, then he claims he's never even did it ever, which is obviously lies. I'd like to mention too that my mom only thinks I'm a trans man because I'm "more masculine in fashion" or I just "don't fir in with girls" which confuses me and is stupid in my opinion because I do enjoy stereotypical feminine things like whatever. and both my parents try to convince me not to ever take trans medications because "they could hurt me" which is dumb to me but idrk, that's all for now. If this keeps up I may have to call any form of authority because this is driving me insane day by day, they may not listen or consider it abuse but i'm not done yet.

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2NDFLOOR

Super Moderator • 4 months, 3 weeks ago

I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time at home. It really sounds like you are struggling with all the different members of your family on many different levels. It sounds like you feel like you are being treated unfairly in many ways. You can try expressing yourself to them about how you feel and how they are treating you and what you wish could be different. Try not to make it sound like you are blaming them and instead come from an "I feel" place. When you make me do my brothers chores, I feel like I'm being treated unfairly and the responsibilities aren't balanced. If that doesn't work for you, you may want to consider seeing if they would do family therapy with you. And as a last resort, depending on your age and ability you can start preparing to leave (get a job, save up money, look into housing options) whenever you are of age to do so. Thank you for writing in and you can call or text us at 888-222-2228.

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