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My family argues 24/7 almost every single day and I'm left there shaking in fear, anger, and sadness.
Today went a bit to far. My brother C was arguing with my other brother D and C said that "if I jumped off a building would that make you feel better?" And just from those types a threats about ending yourself, I saw it was some signs of suicide(I'm not sure if im right, maybe wrong). I generally do not know what to do since I'm the youngest of my family, and my sister was already in a deep sleep so she didn't know what was going on. Therapy won't help, that never worked in the past for my family, I had intervened in it saying "Look at mom, she's upset that you two are arguing 24/7!" That didn't even work, they kept going. Now (1:15AM. Saturday November 23, 2024), everyone became quiet.
I am so sorry your family is having a tough time! Maybe you can try to talk to someone at school for some local resources you can utilize. Maybe speak with your siblings’ teachers or guidance counselors for support. You can also try to talk to them when there is not a crisis. Often times we want to talk when things feel hectic, but it’s actually better to try to talk when everything is calm and then come up with a plan for the future!
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult situation at home. It sounds incredibly overwhelming to witness constant arguments and to feel that fear and sadness. It’s understandable to be concerned about your brother’s words and the impact they may have on your family dynamic.
Here are a few thoughts on how you might handle this situation:
1. Reach Out for Help: If you believe your brother's comments reflect serious distress or suicidal thoughts, it's crucial to talk to someone who can help, like a trusted adult, teacher, or school counselor. They can provide guidance and support to your family.
2. Express Your Feelings: While it may feel challenging, consider sharing your feelings with your family. Let them know how the arguments affect you and express your concern for your brother. Sometimes, opening a dialogue can help others realize the impact of their actions.
3. Take Care of Yourself: In such a chaotic environment, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being. Engage in activities that help you feel calm and centered, whether that's listening to music, journaling, or spending time with friends.
4. Seek Support for Yourself: Even if therapy hasn’t worked for your family in the past, consider seeking support for yourself. Talking to someone who can listen and offer guidance can be beneficial.
5. Look for Small Moments of Calm: If things have quieted down, take advantage of that time to breathe and find some peace. Even brief moments of calm can help you recharge.
6. Be Patient: Change takes time, and family dynamics can be complicated. While it’s hard to witness the arguments, remember that you can only control your actions and responses.
You’re not alone in this, and it’s important to seek support when you need it. Your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to reach out for help. Take care of yourself.
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