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I was being the best gf I could be and I still got cheated on
Your actions and being the best girlfriend you could be were not the problem here. The person that cheated on you is the one that is responsible for their own actions so try not to let that be a detriment from being the best you could be. You'll eventually find someone that appreciates your efforts and returns them to you in a healthy manner. Call or text us anytime at 888-222-2228.
Try to not feel responsible for someone else's actions. You might have not done anything wrong, some people just do not understand the extent of responsibility that comes with a relationship. Your other half will be someone who does not find the need to do these things and truly appreciates you for all that you are.
Thank you for sharing this hardship you are going through. It is not easy to reach out for help. It is excruciating to put your best foot forward in a relationship and then had your partner cheat on you. You are valid for any feelings you may feel about this situation. Once you have allowed yourself to grieve, try and remind yourself that your partner’s actions are not a reflection of anything about you. Find solace in the fact that you did the best you could, and that you cannot control how another person behaves. All you can do is take responsibility for how you respond to this betrayal and grief. Ultimately, it is an opportunity for you to grow, learn to find the love and comfort that exists within yourself, and lean on other trusted loved ones to help you through the pain of this experience. Eventually, you will find someone who aligns with your needs and values and will return the love that you give.
This says nothing about you and everything about him or her. You are not responsible for anyone's actions, only your own. Take this time to regroup, heal, reflect and grow. He or she clearly wasn't the one. But you will find someone who treats you with the reciprocated respect that you show them.
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