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My brother started belittling my dream school since it is in Los Angeles. And he also was saying I didn’t deserve honors college, since I am going to be an art major. And saying that I wouldn’t make it because of how toxic people are. And my mom was saying she would hate it if I was to come back as a “bisexual” (which I am, and haven’t come out yet). She also kept making fun of the LGBTQ+ community. They also did not let me hang out with my boyfriend today, eventhough we aren’t gonna spend Christmas/New Years together. And we are both seniors in high school. He wants to go to Rutgers and I want to go to Otis College of Art and Design, so we won’t see each other often. My family is also making bets on when we are going to break up next. We break up a few times because of our mental health issues, he has a video game addiction and I have seasonal depression. However he is working with a psychologist to help him overcome it. And I always call this hotline. And the last thing they discussed was the Catholic Church. And I am not the biggest fan of religion, since I am an atheist.
I am sorry so much happened during your holiday! It is important to stay focused on your goals. Try to identify barriers to your goals so you have a plan how to overcome them. As for your family, try to communicate with them and let them know how much it bothers you when they say the things they say. Let them know how it impacts you as a person. Finally, you can create boundaries for yourself.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It sounds incredibly tough to face such negativity from your family, especially when you're trying to pursue your dreams and navigate your identity. It's important to remember that your aspirations and who you are matter, regardless of what others say.
Choosing to pursue art and attending a school that inspires you is something to be proud of, and honors colleges recognize talent and passion in all fields, including the arts. Your worth isn't defined by others' opinions, especially when it comes to your dreams and your identity.
It’s also completely valid to feel frustrated and hurt by your family's comments about your relationship and your sexuality. It’s tough when the people who are supposed to support you don’t understand or accept you. It might help to have an open conversation with them about how their words affect you, if you feel safe doing so.
In the meantime, lean on your friends and your boyfriend for support. Surrounding yourself with people who understand and accept you can make a big difference. Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be in an environment where you feel supported and accepted for who you are. If you ever need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to reach out to hotlines or supportive communities online. You’re not alone in this.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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