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I hate how I look, I hate everything about my body how it only looks pretty if there's clothes on, so I could manipulate how my body looks through the fabric. I hate how my arms look big, how one arm is so much shorter then the other that it's noticeable, I hate my height I hate how tall I am I wish I was just short, I hate how my thighs are semi thick and then my legs are smaller making it look weird if I wore shorts or skirts or dresses where my legs show and my thighs don't, I hate my back profile with a passion, I hate it so much how my shoulders look from the back, I hate my face and how chubby my cheeks look, I hate my forehead, I hate my lips, I hate my chest and my stomach, I hate my eyes, I hate my hair. I hate everything about me. I try to dress feminine and even if I do I still look masculine, like a pig wearing makeup it's why I'm self conscious to wear full makeup looks even If I want to outside, I'm forced to wear more masculine clothing cus I look like It fits me like I'm a man. My shoulders are too wide, my back is too long, I don't have an ass, I hate my voice, I hate me, I hate myself. I can't help it, I can't help but hate how I look and to hide myself, I have no confidence no matter how much I try to force myself to or act like I do, I'm ugly, I know people think it, I know people think I'm hideous that my body looks weird that my back is wide and long and looks like a man's back, why can't I be short, why can't I have long blonde hair, lighter skin and be skinny yet thick, why can't my curves be more noticeable, those girls have everyone love them, but no matter how hard I try to make myself look pretty I don't feel it, I take photos of myself and look at them for too long I pick up every little insecurities. I just wish I was pretty and I wish I didn't have these stupid fucking scars on my arms or these wounds from my eczema. Why can't I be pretty?? Why can't I look like my brother, everyone finds him pretty everyone can't help but comment on it, why can't I just have been pretty.
Navigating life with a body can be quite challenging. Much like our thoughts, our physical selves are something we can't escape. While simply having a body can present its own set of difficulties, embracing and loving it can often be even harder. Whether it's due to imperfections in how your body functions or dissatisfaction with its shape or size, many people experience moments of not fully loving their bodies. These feelings are completely normal and often fluctuate as we go through different stages of life.
It's normal to feel trapped and disheartened about your body, but that doesn't have to be the conclusion of your story. There are numerous steps you can take to start the process of loving, or at the very least, appreciating and accepting your body.
Cultivating positive feelings about our bodies is essential. When we focus solely on negative emotions regarding something we cannot change, it leads to stress and unhappiness, which isn't a healthy way to navigate life.
Shift Your Perspective:
Body Neutrality: Rather than aiming for "body positivity," which can sometimes feel out of reach, consider adopting a mindset of body neutrality. This approach encourages you to view your body as a functional tool that supports your life, rather than constantly evaluating its appearance.
Focus on Function: Recognize the incredible things your body does for you—like walking, breathing, thinking, and moving. Value your body for its abilities instead of concentrating on perceived imperfections. Challenge Negative Thoughts: When you notice negative thoughts about your body creeping in, actively question them. Consider whether these thoughts are realistic and compassionate.
2. Foster Self-Compassion: Practice Mindfulness: Engaging in mindfulness practices can enhance your awareness of your thoughts and emotions, enabling you to observe negative feelings without judgment. Self-Kindness: Be as kind and understanding to yourself as you would be to a friend. Steer clear of harsh self-criticism. Embrace Imperfection: Everyone has their flaws, and that’s perfectly fine! Accept your imperfections and concentrate on your strengths.
3. Establish Boundaries and Reduce Exposure: Limit Social Media: Unfollow accounts that evoke negative feelings about your body or promote unrealistic beauty ideals.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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