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I’ve been trying to figure this out for a while and I honestly don’t have the answer and that stupid as it is I’ve been trying to ask Google and I can’t find what I’m looking for. Can anyone answer why I don’t listen to my parents when they tell me not to do something I don’t understand why I do it. I’ll give you an example. My parents don’t want me seeing my student assistant coordinator now I’m not on her caseload, but I see her anyway because she does help me. My parents don’t like her, but I see her anyways cause when she needs a lot to me and she holds special place in my Heart Too. She helps me and I know when I go to her the job if that makes sense my parents have been telling me not to go to her, especially my mom for all four years of my high school see, I met her freshman year when I was suicidal and my mental health wasn’t too good. I spoke up about it because something needed to be done and nothing was being done quick enough for me in my safety and my mental well-being soI grabbed the balls and I went to guidance and I spoke about it and that’s when I met her well over the years, she’s really needs something to me and she feels like a mother to me I have a mom, but she gives me the love that my mom doesn’t get and she helps me out and doesn’t judge me either way. I feel something that I don’t feel with my mom. It kind of frustrates me because she’s just a random Lady, I’ve met for the four years of my life anyways after my mom tells me not to go to her. I keep on going and I keep lying to her and I’m just trying to figure out an answer on why I can’t listen to my parents when they tell me not to do something I got scolded today and yelled at for going to her as always i’m mad at myself and every time I do this, I always get mad part of me can’t stop going to her because I have such a strong relationship and no one understands that anyways maybe it’s just a dumb question but I don’t understand why I can’t listen to my parents.

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2NDFLOOR

Super Moderator • 1 month, 1 week ago

I don’t think anyone can answer that question for you, but you. It sounds like something you need to try ink about and process through…there is definitely a reason you do the things you do. You should try to understand yourself and possibly even ask your parents why they say what they say to try to understand them as well.

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Friendly Fellow

1 month ago

It's completely normal to feel conflicted about your relationships with your parents, especially when it comes to seeking support from someone who understands you. Your feelings for your student assistant coordinator are valid; it sounds like she has provided you with a safe space and emotional support that you may not feel you’re getting at home.

When parents set boundaries, they often do so out of concern for their child's well-being, but that doesn't mean you have to agree with them or that their perspective is the only one that matters. It’s important to recognize that your feelings and experiences are unique to you. Your relationship with your coordinator is built on trust and understanding, which is crucial for your mental health.

Try to communicate openly with your parents about why this person is important to you. Sharing your feelings might help them understand your perspective better, even if they still have concerns. Ultimately, it’s about finding a balance between respecting your parents’ wishes and honoring your own needs for support and connection. Remember, it’s okay to seek help from different sources, especially when it positively impacts your mental health. You’re navigating a tough situation, and it’s commendable that you’re seeking answers and support for yourself.

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