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We have just started being together and we both don't really know how to chat in person. Like, we see each other in school but we can't talk to each other in person. We mostly text each other but we both have trouble encountering each other and communicating. Whenever I call his name he just waves shyly and walks off. I don't know what to do. Someone please give tips to communicating.
Hello, and thanks for reaching out to 2ndfloor. It sounds like your boyfriend is shy and has a difficult time putting his feelings into words. Communication in a relationship is very important and you guys can practice by calling on the phone or using Facetime to talk even if it starts in 5 minutes increments. You may also try writing emails and read g them to each other. Lastly you can both a free that at least once per day you can say hello to each but not through text. That way you can get used to talking. You can increase the time and you get comfortable. If you want to discuss more, please.reach out on our all or call 888-222-2228.
It's completely normal to feel nervous when starting a new relationship, especially when it comes to communicating in person. Here are some tips that might help you both feel more comfortable:
1. Start Small: Begin with brief interactions. A simple "hi" or compliment can help break the ice without the pressure of a long conversation.
2. Use Shared Interests: If you both have classes or interests in common, use those as conversation starters. Asking about homework or projects can make it easier to talk.
3. Practice Active Listening: When you do have a conversation, show that you’re engaged by nodding, making eye contact, and asking follow-up questions.
4. Text Before Meeting: If you know you'll see each other at school, try texting him beforehand to set up a time to talk briefly. This can ease the pressure of spontaneous conversations.
5. Body Language: Be aware of your body language. Smile and maintain an open posture to show that you’re approachable.
6. Be Patient: Understand that building communication takes time. Encourage him to share his thoughts, and don't be discouraged if it feels awkward at first.
7. Group Settings: Sometimes, talking in a group can ease the pressure. Consider hanging out with mutual friends to create a more relaxed atmosphere.
8. Be Honest: If you feel comfortable, let him know that you both struggle with talking in person. This shared understanding can help ease the tension.
Remember, it's okay to feel shy! With practice, you'll both become more comfortable communicating. Good luck!
Hey, so my personal experience with that is just be honest with him. Or if you could only text, do it in a call. Tell him about what you want and desire. Another app that helps is Cozy Couples. It has lightbulbs to show how you are feeling. Get to know you games. A plant and a cat for you to take care of. And a question for you to answer daily.
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