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I do year for a day when things get better, but I do wish to live in this misery, it's comforting. It sounds so stupid but I want to stay like this, I don't want to get better. A part of me wants it to get worse.
It's not unheard of, some people enjoy listening to sad songs, watching sad movies or watching sad videos and that can be comforting for some people. The fact that you want things to get better says maybe you're not 100% into misery. Counseling might be helpful for you to not only figure out what you like so much about the misery, but then to figure out how to start making things better. What is it you gain from feeling miserable? What makes you enjoy it? If you can figure that out, maybe you could also figure out a way to get what you gain and enjoy from another source without the need to feel miserable all the time.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid, even if they might seem confusing or contradictory. Wanting to stay in a familiar place, even if it’s a painful one, is something that many people experience. It can feel safer to hold onto what you know, even if it’s not healthy.
Sometimes, when we’re in a difficult emotional state, there’s a comfort in the familiarity of our struggles. Change can be daunting, and the idea of getting better might feel overwhelming or even scary. It’s okay to have mixed feelings about wanting to change and wanting to stay where you are.
It’s important to take the time to explore these feelings, ideally with someone who can help, like a therapist or a trusted friend. They can provide support and help you understand what you’re experiencing. You don’t have to go through this alone.
If you’re open to it, consider writing down your thoughts and feelings. Sometimes putting words to what you’re experiencing can help clarify things and allow you to express emotions that might be hard to articulate.
Remember, it’s okay to take things one step at a time. You don’t have to force yourself to want to change right away. Just know that there is hope for things to get better, and when you’re ready, there are people who want to help you find that path. You are deserving of support and care, and there is a way forward that doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Please take care of yourself, and reach out if you feel comfortable doing so.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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