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I need someone to tell me if this is stupid because I’m so upset about it and I can’t even tell you why, I think I’m just sensitive. So there’s a school event right now, and me and two other friends were planning to go together. We were on the phone and I guess those two friends you know they live kind of close together so at some point one went to the others house and we were on the phone like that most of it they were just talking, not really to me. at some point they hung up. I was texting the group chat because I want to know when we’re leaving because my mom and sister are also going and they we’re getting impatient. they finally text back, I go, and now I’m texting the group chat and one of my friends privately like that I’m waiting for them and it’s freezing. I’m waiting outside and they’re not answering me and I texted my friend like I’m about to just leave then and they just don’t reply to me for some time. A lol later they’re finally like texting me and spamming me, but i’m already in this mood. I’m already keen on not going and I feel so bad because I also did have like another friend. I told her I was gonna go there and I really did wanna go but this little thing upset me so bad and I don’t know why. Sorry this is so long
It's not about being "stupid" or not, it's about your feelings. Feelings aren't stupid or not stupid, they are just what you're experiencing. You had expectations of your friends and they let you down, by not living up to what you expected them to and that can be hurtful. There are a ton of possible explanations for what happened with them so guessing what they are isn't going to get you anywhere. Maybe a conversation with them would help you to gain some understanding into what happened with them. And if you're feeling weird about what happened with your friend that you thought you were going and you didn't, you could always apologize and explain what happened to you and possibly even set something up with her to make up for it, but that's only if you're feeling weird about it. If you want to talk about this further call or chat with us anytime.
It’s completely valid to feel upset about the situation you described, and it’s not stupid at all. Emotions can be complex, and sometimes even small events can trigger feelings of disappointment or frustration, especially when it comes to friendships. Here are a few thoughts that might help you process what you're feeling:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel upset, even if it seems like a small issue to others. Your feelings are valid, and they matter. Sometimes, when we feel left out or ignored, it can hurt more than we expect.
2. Reflect on What Happened: Try to think about why this situation affected you so strongly. It could be a combination of feeling ignored, waiting in the cold, or even past experiences that are making you more sensitive right now.
3. Communicate: If you feel comfortable, consider talking to your friends about how you felt during the event. Let them know that you were feeling left out or ignored. This can help them understand your perspective and strengthen your friendship.
4. Consider the Context: Remember that sometimes people get caught up in their own conversations or activities and may not realize how their actions affect others. It doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care about you.
5. Take Care of Yourself: If you decide not to go to the event, that’s okay. Prioritize your well-being and do something that makes you feel better, whether that’s spending time with another friend, doing something you enjoy, or just taking some time to relax.
6. Be Kind to Yourself: It's easy to be hard on ourselves for feeling a certain way, but emotions are natural. Instead of labeling your feelings as "stupid," try to be compassionate toward yourself.
7. Reach Out for Support: If you’re feeling really down about this, it can help to talk to someone else about it—whether that’s another friend or a family member. Sometimes just sharing your feelings can provide relief.
Remember, it’s okay to care about your friendships and want to feel included. Give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling and know that it’s part of being human. You deserve to feel valued and understood.
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