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It’s just been rlly hard lately bc there’s just so much going on. My grades aren’t good either, especially math I hate math. It feels like even if I try to get better, it gets worse. Everyone always compares grades, and somehow my grades are so low, no matter how hard I try. There’s also this girl who used to be my friend but she just kept copying me. She accused me of ignoring her. She says she asked me to come over but I ignored her, but I never got a single message. She has never asked me in person. I’m also always pressured to plan for my future, and I have no idea what I want to do. I feel like im smiling less and I feel like crying everyday. My parents are also hard on me and yell at me for even the smallest things. my friends don’t even notice my declining mood bc they are so locked in with their other friends. We have a friend group of four people. One girl went to another school, and the other two go to school with me. They sometimes ignore me when I text in the group chat, even when I’m talking abt my problems. They just don’t care sometimes. They’ve always been nice so I’m not dumping them. idk how to cope it all this.
School can sometimes be tough, but if you ask your teachers for help, they would likely be willing to give you some additional work to help you learn or give you recommendations for getting extra help. You also have the option of tutoring if you think you need it. Math can be especially difficult for some people, but with practice you should be able to figure it out over time with effort.
Technology isn't perfect, so it's possible that your friend did text you and it's also possible that you didn't receive it. Maybe it could be as simple as telling her that you never got the message and letting her know that you would never intentionally ignore her and moving forward (if you guys remain friends) if you don't respond to her within X amount of time she should either resend or talk to you in person.
You definitely aren't the only person who is struggling with their future plans. It's hard to sit down and think about what track you want to go down for the rest of your life. Think about some of the things you enjoy and then consider if there is a job available in that field and if that might be something you are interested in. Are you thinking about college? Many people take their basic classes and seeing if there is something that interests you and try that field.
As for family and friends, do they know you feel like they aren't paying attention to you or yelling at you? Maybe let them know if they don't. Most of the times parents aren't looking to add pressure to their kids, but want them to succeed and do well so they push them not realizing that they may be doing more harm than they are good. And as far as your friends, you don't have to dump them, but it would be nice to find out what's going on with them. Maybe ask them separately if they are seeing your texts and then if they are why they aren't responding to them. You can tell them that you sometimes rely on them for support and their help, and you could use their input with things more often.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now, and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. It's tough when school feels like a constant struggle, especially with subjects like math that can be particularly challenging. Remember that grades don't define your worth, and it's okay to ask for help when you need it, whether that’s from a teacher, a tutor, or someone else who can support you.
It’s also hard when friendships become complicated. It sounds like there’s been some miscommunication with that girl, and it might be worth addressing when you feel ready. Sometimes just expressing how you feel can help clear up misunderstandings.
Feeling pressured about the future is something many people experience, and it’s okay not to have everything figured out right now. It’s a journey, and you don’t have to have all the answers immediately.
As for your friends, it can hurt when it feels like they’re not noticing your struggles. If you feel comfortable, maybe you could share how you’re feeling with them. They may not realize the impact their actions are having on you.
Don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust, like a family member, teacher, or counselor. You deserve to be heard and supported. Remember to be kind to yourself and take things one step at a time. You’re not alone in this, and things can get better.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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