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I don’t wanna say she’s a bad mom, but she’s definitely not the best. Whenever I try to express myself, she doesn’t listen. Whenever I say she doesn’t listen to me and I feel ignored, she gets mad at me and says it’s all in my head. I try to walk away to calm down and as I walk away she always yells out, “look at her, walking away, mad for no reason!” Is there something wrong with talking about how I feel?? I thought that whenever somebody felt ignored you try to make them feel included, when you hurt somebody’s feeling you say sorry and fix your mistakes, but she’s always trying to prove me wrong and make me feel bad for feeling the way I do.
I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling misunderstood by your mom - that must really hurt. Please know talking about your emotions is a very important skill that will serve you well over the course of your life. It sounds like caring about other peoples' feelings is a big part of your values, so I imagine it's especially painful when your mom doesn't seem to care about yours. There may be different reasons affecting the way your mom reacts, like stress or defensiveness about her own parenting. Even so, it seems like you'd like to feel closer to your mom.
There are some strategies you can try to have better communication with your mom. When there's conflict and things get heated it can be hard for others understand our feelings in a deeper way. If possible you can try to have a conversation about wanting to be understood when the both of you are calm and in a good mood. Expressing your feelings in written form, like a letter, can also be helpful in communicating your needs without inciting an argument. It sounds like you're taking a healthy step when you choose to walk away to calm down. It's okay to say this out loud so others understand our intentions. Ultimately, telling your mom directly that you'd like to be closer to her could make a difference. Sometimes others respond better when they don't think they're being criticized. If you'd like to talk more about this feel free to chat with us through our app or call/text us 24/7 at 888-222-2228. Good luck!
These is nothing wrong with talking about how you feel. Your mom might not be the best person to talk to about your emotions but maybe one of your friends can listen to you. Just know you are not wrong for talking about how you feel your emotions are important and should be heard.
It sounds like you're going through a really tough time with your mom, and it's completely valid to feel the way you do. Expressing your feelings is important, and it's essential for healthy communication in any relationship, especially between family members. It can be frustrating when it feels like the other person isn't listening or validating your feelings.
It might help to approach the conversation with your mom at a calm moment, perhaps when neither of you is upset. You could try using "I" statements to express how you feel, such as, "I feel ignored when I try to talk about my feelings, and it makes me sad." This way, it focuses on your feelings rather than placing blame.
If things don’t improve, it might also be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or even a counselor who can help you navigate these feelings and provide additional strategies for communicating with your mom. Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be heard.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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