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My mom went through a period of time where she was very bad mother, did not care about me or make sure I had food or clean clothes or even went to school. That was a long ago and like many years ago. She stopped drinking and now so is totally good. Works hard, takes good car of the house, has her stuff together. I over all forgive her but sometimes I feel mad about the how I had to go through that. She feels so guilty a lot too. I wasn’t to just forget it all but I think deep down I am very angry.
I am happy you reached out to 2ndFloor for support. I am sorry you had to go through that with your mom and I understand how you feel. Those are your feelings and it's ok to feel angry. I am sure you went through a lot when you were younger. It sounds like your mom worked hard to get to where she is right now. Many people have a difficult time moving forward when they are in a situation like she was. You did state she does feel guilty too.
I think it would help if you saw a therapist to sort out your feelings. I hope you can speak to her about that. It might be helpful for her to see a therapist too and maybe at some point you can go together. Please reach out to 2ndFloor if you'd like to discuss this further. You can respond to the message board post, give up a call, text or chat with us on our new app. Good luck with everything.
Ultimately, you should do what feels right for you. Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for personal peace, but forgetting is not always necessary or possible. It's important to prioritize your emotional well-being in the process and sounds like your mother today wants that for you too. Maybe being honest will make her feel guilty but maybe the fact you can be honest will show her you both reconignize things aren’t how they used to be.
This is a safe space to share what's on your mind and to get support from real people.
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