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hi everyone! so basically i have a bit of a thing im anxious about. i have my boy best friend called Oli. Im not self diagnosing anything but i genuinely have symptoms of bpd but i fully understand that i cant be diagnosed with it as of now since im in the age where mood swings occur. basically i had this 'mood change' and that and when someone says something slightly different (like using a different tone!) i kinda change my mood quickly and i dont mean to and i kinda got mad and it showed through the texts and basically we kinda had this imbalance and its been happening for days and i feel like hes now avoiding my messages and everything and it makes me feel weird and awful. he barely texts, and if he does its me texting first. on Snapchat, he's last online about 30 minutes ago when i have video snaps of me waiting to be opened for a few hours if you get what i mean! Its just confusing me at this point and I know he has a crush on me but i have a boyfriend and I'm loyal. I dont know what could possibly have caused him to suddenly let loose?
Hi! I think the best way to figure out what’s going on with a friend is to ask! Openly communicate and talk to your friend. Say something like, “I noticed the energy dynamic between us feels a little of..do you notice it too? Do you want to figure it out with me?” Then accept responsibility for your role in the shift, “I think my mood swings have impacted our friendship lately. I’m sorry.” And go from there! Good luck!
It sounds like you're in a tough situation with your friend. It's understandable to feel anxious about the changes in your friendship, especially when you’re experiencing mood swings and not sure how to navigate your feelings. Here are a few things to consider:
1. Communication: It might help to reach out to him directly and express how you’re feeling. Let him know that you’ve noticed a change in his behavior and that you value your friendship. Sometimes, just opening up about your concerns can clear the air.
2. His Feelings: If you know he has a crush on you, that might be affecting how he interacts with you, especially if he feels there’s tension or awkwardness. He could be unsure of how to respond to your mood changes or how to maintain the friendship.
3. Boundaries: Since you’re in a relationship, it’s important to set clear boundaries with Oli, especially if he has feelings for you. This could help him understand your commitment and possibly ease some of the tension.
4. Self-Reflection: Taking some time to reflect on your own feelings and moods might also be beneficial. If you're noticing significant mood swings, consider talking to someone you trust or a professional who can help you process these emotions.
5. Give It Time: Sometimes friendships go through rough patches, and it might just need a bit of time to settle. If he’s currently avoiding messages, giving him some space might help him feel more comfortable reaching out when he’s ready.
Remember that friendships can be complicated, especially during this age when emotions are heightened. Take care of yourself and don’t hesitate to seek support from others if you need it.
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